Helping Children Cope
Helping a child cope with a loss starts with honest, age-appropriate communication and giving the child choices where possible. Bartolomeo & Perotto Funeral Home offers practical guidance for Rochester-area parents and caregivers. Call (585) 720-6000 for additional support.
Use Clear, Honest Language
Clear, age-appropriate language, such as “died” rather than euphemisms like “went to sleep,” helps avoid confusion or fear, especially for younger children who may take phrases literally.
Offer Choices Where Possible
Giving children the choice whether to attend a visitation or funeral, with an honest explanation of what to expect, is generally more supportive than deciding for them.
Loop In School and Caregivers
Letting a school or daycare know about the loss allows teachers to watch for behavior changes and offer flexibility.
Frequently Asked Questions (FAQs)
Should children attend the funeral or visitation?
Most grief specialists suggest giving children the choice, along with an honest, age-appropriate explanation of what to expect.
What words should I use to explain death to a child?
Clear, honest language, such as “died” rather than euphemisms, helps avoid confusion.
How can a school or teacher help a grieving child?
Letting the school know allows teachers to watch for behavior changes and offer flexibility.