Calvin Dupuis

Calvin Dupuis
June 3, 1953 ~ August 6, 2016

Calvin Dupuis passed away on August 6th after a short Illness. He is survived by his wife
Bonnie, his son Derrick (Megan), his daughter Stacy (Phillip Celata), his grandson Russell, his father Maurice (Marilyn Frasier), and his brothers Leon (Bridget Ayers) and Lionel. He lived life with a sense of real joy.
Our husband, father, friend, and toastmaster Calvin passed away suddenly on August 6th after
a short illness. As many of you know, he faced significant medical problems throughout the
years, and one finally got the best of him. Since Calvin was not a serious (or traditional) sort of guy, we will not be holding serious or traditional memorial services this week. Instead, we will
intend to have a party to celebrate his joy for life, to be planned for the upcoming months. In lieu of flowers, we request that donations be made to Writers and Books at wab.org
Calvin grew up in Penacook, New Hampsha (his pronunciation, not ours). He was the son of
Maurice and Irene Dupuis and older brother to Lionel and Leon. He graduated from UNH in
1975 and then met his wife Bonnie at the University of Rochester, where he received a Masters of Science in Chemical Engineering in 1978. They settled down in Rochester, NY, where he worked for Kodak for many years, until he switched careers and became a math and science teacher. Calvin worked to live and did not live to work his time spent at his job allowed him to provide support for his growing family and the means to pursue the delights in life.
And oh, how Calvin pursued those happy things! First and foremost, his family brought him
much happiness (and consternation). For Calvin, his wife Bonnie hung the moon. At first he was not sure about the prospect of kids (until he considered their leafraking
potential), but he was always, always sure about her. Every Christmas, Calvin would buy a special Christmas card for Bonnie, and present-opening could not commence until she read his annual dedication of his love for her. They embarked together on the great adventure of having children, and Stacy and Derrick proved to be more than just decent landscapers. Calvin was immensely proud of both of
his children, and his happiest moments were when the whole family was together. Whether it
was hiking in the mountains, going to a Tom Petty concert, or just having dinner around the
kitchen table, Calvin's unbridled amusement and joy was most evident when his family was
around.
Calvin was a man of many, many hobbies and passions. For many of us, we think of hiking
when we think of him. There is no way to identify one single greatest accomplishment in his life,but his summit of Kilimanjaro and his domination over all 115 of the Northeast 111 high peaks certainly need to be on the list. He was also known for misleading his friends and family as to the length and difficulty of any day's hike. There was no way to know what was coming, but it was certainly not what he had told you.
His love for activity did not cease with hiking, however. He was a regular and competitive tennis player, and golf enthusiast, with both clubs and frisbees. He frequently played pool in their basement and would never let his kids beat him in any competition. Regarding sports, Calvin
grew up in New England and was therefore contractually obligated to cheer for the Patriots and Red Sox. He was, however, a fairweather fan who "swore off" football after they lost to the Giants again in the 2008 Superbowl, but then secretly started watching games again a year later.
Music was also an enormous part of Calvin's life. He was a devoted Deadhead who wept the
day that Jerry Garcia died. His passion for music was varied and unquenchable, and his ability to score tickets to a soldout
concert would make him practically giddy. Likewise, he would spend hours on ebay looking for the perfect baseball card to complete his collection and would find as much fun in looking at them after they were in his possession. He also had an enormous collection of movies which he relished watching and rewatching.
These descriptions of Calvin's hobbies and interests do not even begin to scratch the surface of who he was. He was a man who was quick with a bad pun, and would laugh at his own jokes even if no one else did. He liked to rile up his kids whenever he could by making bombastic or outlandish comments. He would buy the most ridiculous stocking stuffers every Christmas just so he could laugh at his own purchases. He would feign ignorance about how to adjust the thermostat so that Bonnie would have do it. He (almost) always did the dishes. He found real satisfaction in tutoring his students in math. He would swear that he wouldn't want dessert, but then later would go back "for just a sliver." When he would laugh, you could feel it echo a little bit in your chest. We cannot even begin to describe him, you just had to know him.
Calvin fought serious medical problems throughout his life, and winning those battles made him profoundly appreciative for every day on this earth. He refused to put off until tomorrow what should be done today. He lived with a true j oie de vive, a phrase that is both appropriate and wholly inadequate to describe him. To have known Calvin is to truly have had lightness in your life, and our world is undoubtedly darker without him.
This is an incredibly difficult time for all of us who knew and loved Calvin. But through our tears,there have been many happy moments of reflection about him (leave it to Calvin to have us laughing while we are crying!). We have a request for those of you who knew him best: think of something you have been wanting to do, but just haven't gotten around to doing. Whether it is going to a nice restaurant, checking out that new art exhibit, buying a new album, pushing yourself on a challenging hike, reading a novel, please
go do that thing. Do it with the vigor, passion, and unbridled, childlike enthusiasm that Calvin would have had, and think of him. We think he would have liked to be the reason you go out and have an adventure.