Jackie F. Grey
Jackie F. Grey
August 1, 1945 ~ April 23, 2023
Rochester - Passed away on April 23, 2023, aged 77. Jackie is predeceased by her beloved husband, Stephen Grey; parents, Doris and John Rice. She is survived by her children, Jill (Karl) Marsh, Ted Grey, and Jon Grey; grandchildren, May and Sara Dempsey; sister, Jill Lipinski; and many nieces, nephews, daughters, and dear friends.
Jackie Grey was born Jacqueline Rice on August 1, 1945 in Rochester, NY. She was welcomed into life by parents, John "Jack" and Doris "Ducky" Rice. Jack spent time in the US Army as an airplane photographer and worked at Kodak for 40 years, earning a patent for the camera that first took photos of the Moon. Ducky worked at JC Penney's and was a devoted mother to her daughters, Jackie and Jill. Together, Ducky and Jack cultivated a smiling, smart, loving family that has lasted generations. Jackie grew up learning about the importance of hard work, treating people as equals, and finding success in your own way.
In her teenage years, Jackie attended Greece Olympia High School and was a member of its first ever graduating class. There, she met her lifelong best friend, Richard Cook. He would go on to be a huge part of her and her family's life (he and his wife, Nancy, even acted as "uncle and aunt" to Jackie's children). She furthered her education at Hartwick College, then at Franklin College in Indiana. After completing her schooling, Jackie worked at the Seneca Falls Library, ran a daycare with her sister, Jill, and was passionate about promoting the success of nonprofit organizations. Outside of work, she gave back to her community by being active with Easterseals, the Threshold Learning Center, and the Palmyra Presbyterian Church. She was selfless and didn't think twice about contributing her time and paycheck toward helping people. Whether it was knitting hats or taking people on shopping trips to the grocery store, Jackie loved to help.
Stephen Grey was the love of Jackie's life. The pair met during their time at Franklin College, fell deeply in love, and decided to spend their lives together. Even into the later years of their marriage, they still reminisced about their first home together - a cinderblock apartment with lawn furniture in the living room. Jackie and Stephen's 52 years of marriage acted as a shining example of what a happy and long-lasting partnership looked like. Jackie's children recall now that their love seemed magical, like a marriage in a storybook.
Family was the most important element of Jackie's life. She treasured the time she spent with her children, Jennifer "Jill", Theodore "Ted", and Jonathan "Jon". Jackie was a loving and supportive mom. At every game, meet, concert, and performance, she was there on the sidelines or in the audience cheering her family on. Together, the Greys enjoyed spending time together doing home improvement projects, visiting Sunset Beach, NC, traveling to Fifth Lake in the Adirondacks, and going to Uncle Pinky's house on Cayuga Lake. During holiday time, they all watched the Macy's Thanksgiving Day Parade while picking bread for stuffing and schnitzeling the beans. Jackie made even more memories with her family upon the arrival of her granddaughters, May and Sara. Jackie relished every chance to attend their games and performances, too, and was known to affectionately sing the song "My Girl" by the Temptations to them (just adding an "s" at the end to make it "My Girls"). Jackie's sister Jill's family was included in these fond memories, too. Between the two families, there were seven cousins who grew up alongside one another. Jackie and Jill even had a choreographed routine to "Sisters" from Irving Berlin's "White Christmas".
Jackie enjoyed knitting clothing and hats, soaking up the sun, singing along to Paul Simon songs (or anything really as long as it was around the fire), spending time by the lakeside, and playing with dogs. She had quite a few canine companions throughout her life (and a cat or two, too) - Buttons, Taffy, Pippa, Cheska, Schnookie, Red, Blue, Kramer, Peppi, and Daisy.
The legacy Jackie leaves behind is one of love, strength, and acceptance. She loved unconditionally and had true compassion for anyone who crossed her path. Her strength was an inspiration to her family, too. She was small but mighty - living with Parkinson's Disease for the last 17 years. Jackie accepted people as they were, flaws and all. She encouraged their goals and would care deeply about their aspirations and dreams. Her smile, her laughter, and her love will be missed and remembered forever.